The problem you have identified is well known , especially with "off the shelf" fittings.
[QUOTE=redthunder;458191]Even with no flag it wobbles. /QUOTE]
I run a similar rig and set up and my all round nav light also wobbles.
However my "pole" was custom made by Redbay and has done over 100hrs without a problem.
Was yours made by Redbay? - if so the weld should not have failed -therefore send it back to Gary to get sorted. Otherwise get a heavy duty fitting made to overcome the problem.
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