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Old 11 February 2012, 16:19   #11
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Really sorry to hear your news. I wish you and your family all the best.

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Old 11 February 2012, 16:44   #12
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Very Sad news mate,draw strength from the Good times!

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Old 11 February 2012, 18:01   #13
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I know what your going thru just now. My mum passed away in Nov and I lost my father the year before. It does become easier over time. Like many have said, dwell on the good times. Take care mate.
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Old 11 February 2012, 18:22   #14
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I lost my brother a couple of years ago at 43 to bowl cancer, really hard for me because i was quite close to him but time is good healer but we will always loved ones
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Old 11 February 2012, 19:12   #15
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My heartfelt sympathy for you Alex, As many of the other chaps say remember the good times, Best wishes for you and your family throu this hard time.

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Old 11 February 2012, 23:15   #16
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It's always hard to find the right words for bad news like that. I'm really sorry to hear that Alex. If you find you need some head space, feel free to pop in and chew the fat over here.
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Old 12 February 2012, 02:38   #17
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Alex, sorry to read of your loss. You had many good times, which many others would not have had the opportunity to experience. Think of this and ensure you all keep going to have many more with your family
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Old 12 February 2012, 03:56   #18
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Sorry to hear that. Went through the same with my mum 8 years ago, so know how you are probably feeling right now. Remembering the good times really helps, and although it might mean nothing now, like others have said, it does get easier over time.
Look after yourself, and hope to see you on the water again.
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Hi Alex,

We've never met. Condolences for your loss.

I wanted to share something with you that I learned 4 years ago when I spent some time at sea with a guy who told me about the difficult relationship he had with his father.

His father had been a well respected Pastor and was a sort of holy troubleshooter for the Church, which meant that he was usually moved on to the next hotspot fairly rapidly. As the family was uprooted with him, this meant constant upheaval for everyone and I believe the guy told me that he had attended 7 different schools in his childhood. So no sooner had he started to gain acceptance at a new school and start to make some friends, than he was whisked away and had to start again from scratch, which he deeply resented and he let his father know in no uncertain terms.

Sadly for this guy, his father died when he was just 18 and he hadn't got the resentment out of his system yet. People would come up to him to offer condolences and say things like "You're so lucky to have had such a wonderful father" but he'd had no experience of this part of the relationship

Twenty years on, it still wounded him that he had not had the opportunity to make his peace with his father at the time and for them to enjoy a close, mature relationship.

It sounds as though you enjoyed that closeness with your father.



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